Conscious Relationships

by Shelly Bullard

We are approaching a period of time when relationships are ready to go through a major redesign. The current paradigm isn’t working. People are unsatisfied in Love; people don’t know how to make relationships work.

And, believe it or not, this isn’t a bad thing. Because when systems break-down, that’s when they change. I believe that’s what’s happening in the area of intimate partnership. The break-down is forcing us to move towards conscious Love. So what exactly is a conscious relationship? It's a romantic relationship in which both partners feel committed to a sense of purpose, and that purpose is growth. Individual growth. Collective growth as a couple. Growth that makes the world a better place.

As of now, most people get into relationships to satisfy their own personal needs. This might work for a few years, but eventually the relationship fails us, and we end up unsatisfied as a result. But when two people come together with the intention of growth, the relationship strives towards something much greater than gratification. The partnership becomes a Journey of Evolution, and the two individuals have an opportunity to expand more than they could alone. Deep satisfaction and long-term fulfillment arise as a result.

So if you’re someone who feels called to take your experience of romantic Love to the next level, below are four qualities that characterize what being a conscious couple is all about. Welcome to the path of the conscious relationship. This is next-level Love...

1. The conscious couple is not attached to the outcome of the relationship - growth comes first. Not being attached to the outcome of the relationship does not mean you don’t care what happens! It also doesn’t mean that you don’t have fantasies about how the relationship will turn out. What it means is: you’re more committed to the experience of growth than you are to making the relationship “work.” The reality is, we’re here to grow. Physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. When growth stops, we automatically feel like something’s gone wrong. Because it has. Without growth, we aren’t fulfilling our Soul’s purpose.

Unfortunately, relationships today tend to stifle growth more than enhance it. This is one of the main reasons we’re failing at romantic Love. We want our partners to act in a certain way, we repress ourselves to please others, and soon enough, we feel small, oppressed and puzzled about who we’ve become. This, inevitably, makes the relationship feel like a cage that we want to break out of. But the unfortunate truth is: we’ve caged ourselves.

The conscious couple values growth more than anything else because they know this is the secret to keeping the relationship alive. Even though growth is scary (because it takes us into the unknown), the couple is willing to strive towards expansion, even at the risk of out-growing the relationship. Because of this, the relationship maintains a natural feeling of aliveness, and love between the couple does, too.

2.Each person in the relationship is committed to owning their stuff Conscious couples know that we all have wounds from the past, and they understand that these wounds will inevitably be triggered, especially in a relationship. In other words, they expect to feel abandoned, trapped, rejected, overlooked and any other shitty feeling that arises when we bond closely with another person.

Most of us still believe that relationships should only feel good, and when bad feelings surface, something has gone terribly wrong. What we fail to see in this situation is that these shitty feelings stem from our own faulty patterning! These issues are not caused by our partners; they’re caused by our beliefs.

The conscious couple is willing to look at their past and current issues in relationships because they know that by facing these beliefs systems, they can evolve into a new relationship-reality. Dysfunctional patterns will dissolve, but only when we take responsibility for them, first.

3. All feelings are welcome and no internal process is condemned. In a conscious relationship, there’s room to feel anything. Not only that, there’s room to express those feelings and fantasies to your partner. This is edgy territory… it’s not easy to do. But it’s also one of the most healing things we can experience in a partnership It’s rare to be completely honest about who you are, and to stretch yourself to let your partner do the same. You may not like what you hear; in fact, it may trigger the hell out of you. But you’re willing to be triggered if it means your partner can be authentic.

Like I already said, we’re used to molding and changing ourselves to please people we love because we don’t want them to stop loving us! This stifles the Love out of our connections. The only option is radical honesty: revealing parts of ourselves that are hard to share, and letting our partners do the same. This leads to feeling known, seen and truly understood — a combination that will automatically enhance your Love.

4. The relationship is a place to practice Love. Love, ultimately, is a practice. A practice of acceptance, being present, forgiveness, and stretching your heart into vulnerable territories. Sometimes we treat Love like it’s a destination. We want that peak feeling all the time, and when it’s not there, we’re not satisfied with what the relationship has become. In my mind, this is missing the whole point of Love.

Love is a Journey and an exploration. It’s showing up for all varied nuances of your relationship and asking yourself, What would Love do here?” The answer will be different every time, and because of this, you’ll get to grow in ways you never have before! The conscious couple is fiercely committed to being the embodiment of Love. And through their devotion and practice, Love shows up in their lives and relationship in ways they would’ve never imagined before.

positivity attracts negativity

Ever wonder why you seem to attract negative people to you?

The fact is … positive and negative people are often drawn to each other even when they seem so vastly different. It’s rooted in our nature. Actually… It’s science.

A battery has two ends — a positive terminal (cathode) and a negative terminal (anode). If you connect the two ends …electricity is produced! Whether comfortable or not, when a negative person connects with a positive, an energy is created. We crave energy. Energy is a flow of electrons and energy is a flow of emotions, If you’ve ever wondered why opposites attract – there’s part of your answer. A Positive force will magnetically draw a negative charge to it.

Know that dealing with negative people, you first must recognize that we are in fact attracted to the energy or charge that we feel. The key is to understand if the flow energy and if you need to “detach” from that negative force. What are you getting from the relationship? What is it you want from the relationship and is it realistic? Will you ever get it? Does this relationship serve you? Is your life better with this person in it? With most relationships we have a choice. We can’t choose our family members but we can choose our friends. Does this person lift you up? Are they happy for your success? Do they cheer for you? Do they pray for you? Do they care enough to push you or ask uncomfortable questions when you’re off track?

A true friend is someone who cares so much, that they will risk offending you, having that uncomfortable conversation to let you know when you’re on a destructive path or just underselling yourself. A true friend should feel like the President of your Fan Club! A true friend wants what’s in your best interest… Those are the people you need in your life. Those are the important relationships — and you have a choice. Those friends who are negative, impossible please, terribly unhappy with themselves, and hell bent on confrontation are not healthy people to spend time with. There is a cost to be paid and guess who pays the price? Ask yourself how often this person repays or redeposits the withdrawals they make? We have a finite amount of love, energy, compassion and most importantly time. Be mindful of how and with whom you spend those things. Now I am certainly not suggesting that you cut these individuals from your life. Everyone has value. Everyone has a way in which they enrich our lives. I hope you find these following suggestions helpful.

How to best manage negative people and relationships:

1. Consider carefully how much of yourself you give to those who only withdraw.
2. Give negative individuals less power over your emotions, time and happiness.
3. You are not responsible for another person’s happiness, value or good mood.
4. Don’t take the hurtful actions as a personal reflection.
5. Remember…it is impossible to win an argument with someone who is “never wrong” or blindly self-focused.
6. Difficult, needy, angry, overly sensitive people are that way —not because of something you’ve done or not done—- but often because of early childhood experiences.
7. Have empathy and compassion but not at the risk of sacrificing yourself.
8. Don’t take it personal. It’s really not about you. And sometimes there’s nothing you can fix….but we can chose our friends.

Hurt people hurt people.

When the negative person is a family remember that you have choice in the way you respond—- respond in love. Stop being angry, end your resentment. Put love in your heart. We can’t change people… But we can pray for them. When dealing with unhappy family members, know your part, but set healthy boundaries. Be supportive without taking responsibility for the self-worth of another. Create a healthier relationship. And if you want this person in your life, (or if you really don’t have a choice via marriage or bloodline ) then make a decision to do your best without sacrificing your soul. Ask questions. Listen.
And listening doesn’t mean letting the other person talk, so that they will hurry up and finish so you can say what you need to say. Listening is understanding; trying to see things from their life perspective. Having an understanding of what it is like to walk in their shoes and what experiences have led them to this way of thinking. Take the word confrontation out of your vocabulary. Decide to be more loving. And lastly, I believe that no relationship is 50/50. Every relationship has a humble hero. It’s okay to be that person from time to time who does more and takes pride in their role. Be the person who’s willing to make the other person feel like the center of the universe. Instead of keeping score or building resentment, just hold that pride inside of you.
Know without having to broadcast it or write your award acceptance speech that this is ***your gift*** This is what draws other people to you. Stop feeling sorry for yourself or wondering when someone else is going to do the same for you. Respond in love or make a decision to make a change.
There are exceptions to every rule – but the thing I know for sure and it sounds “total cheeseburger” but love is almost always the right answer.
from: http://www.powerofpositivity.com/positive-people-still-attract-negative-people/



Also known as the Sign of the Mystic or the Investigator, Scorpio is Negative in polarity (as are Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Capricorn and Pisces). The general characteristics of Negative Signs lean toward introversion and prefer to draw upon personal resources rather than look for external stimuli. Such individuals are naturally more receptive, sensitive and nurturing than are the Zodiac Signs of Positive polarity (Aries, Gemini, Leo, Libra, Sagittarius and Aquarius). However, Negative Signs are also likely to be much more cautious, retiring and standoffish than their Positive counterparts with a tendency to keep personal feelings under tight control. Taurus is the most introverted of the Negative Signs (with Virgo a close second).

All Zodiac Signs governed by the Elements of Earth and Water are considered to be Feminine in nature. Thus, Scorpio (ruled by water) is considered Feminine (as are Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Capricorn and Pisces). Feminine Signs are traditionally conceived as being more receptive and less active than their Masculine counterparts which are ruled by the Elements of Fire and Air (the Zodiac Signs of Aries, Gemini, Leo, Libra, Sagittarius and Aquarius). Feminine Signs focus primarily on the emotional and material world with particular attention to sensitivity and depth of feeling. Feminine Signs are said to be nocturnal or night-oriented. Therefore, the term “feminine” should be viewed in the same light as the Yin (or dark) Polarity of the Tao.
from: http://www.scorpioseason.com/2012/07/scorpio-yin-and-negative-polarity/

The Relationship Between Energy and Currency

by Pao L. Chang, Guest writer @ Waking Times

To find out how energy and currency are related, you need to look beyond the definition of the word currency. This means that you may need to research its origins and use phonetics to help you find the connection between energy and currency. Once you figure out how energy and currency are related, you will eventually know how currency is being used to steal your energy and time.

The Overt Definition of Energy and Currency

Merriam-Webster.com defines energy as the “ability to be active; the physical or mental strength that allows you to do things; natural enthusiasm and effort; usable power that comes from heat, electricity, etc.” In science, energy is often viewed as a “substance” that can not be created or destroyed. It can only be transformed from one form to another.

As for currency, Black’s Law dictionary 6th edition defines it as “coined money and such banknotes or other paper money as are authorized by law and do in fact circulate from hand to hand as the medium of exchange.”

The word currency originated from the Latin word currens, the present participle of currere, which means “to run.” Now, why would they based the word currency on a Latin word that does not have much to do with paper money or coin? Because it is not really about the paper money or coin. Instead, it has to do with energy.

The overt or unhidden definition of the word currency only shows you its meaning at the surface. To find its deeper meaning, you need to look deep into the hidden layers of this word.

The Covert Definition of Currency

To find the covert or hidden definition of currency, you need to use phonetics and separate the word currency into two words. When spoken out loud, the word currency sounds similar to “current-sea.” What does a current do in a river? It flows to the sea! Sometimes you have to rely on the phonetics instead of the letters to find the hidden meaning of a word.

What are the things that cause the current to flow? The forces of nature (i.e., gravity) and the elevation of the land. Dictionary.com defines current as “something that flows, as a stream.” The flowing movement of currents is what causes the freshwater in the river to flow to the sea. Once the freshwater is in the sea, the water is now part of the “current-sea,” or the “current of the sea.”

The word currency also sounds similar to “current-chi.” In Chinese, the word chi means “natural energy,” “life force,” or “energy flow.” Based on these definitions, currency means the “flow of energy.” When you really think about it, currency is a medium for exchanging energy.

When you go to work at a company, the company often pays you hourly. Every hour is recorded to make sure that you are paid for investing your time and energy into the company. After you have worked for a certain amount of time, you are given a weekly or biweekly paycheck, usually on Friday. Once you take your paycheck to the bank to cash it for currency, the currency now represents your time and energy.

The Relation Among Banks, Rivers, and Currency

One important thing you need to know about the words bank and currency is that they are related to the word river. What does a river have on its two sides to prevent water from flowing out of it? Riverbanks! Banks are like rivers because they regulate currency. In other words, they regulate the flow of energy, just like how riverbanks regulate the flow of the energy of water. They did not combine the word river and the word banks to make the word riverbanks by accident.

The word currency also has a connection with the word battery. The content in block quotation below will show you evidence of this. It is an excerpt from my article titled The Esoteric Definition of Battery.

To find the covert or hidden meanings of the word battery, you need to understand how the wordscharge and battery are used in court and business. Once you learn how to do this and connect the words charge and battery to law, commerce, and business, you will know the deeper meanings of the word battery.

In legal term, when someone gets beaten up, that person is often referred to as a “victim of battery.” If the victim press charges, the person who have committed the battery will be summoned to go to court to face the charges. …

The word battery is an important word in commerce and law, because it has to do with the process of harnessing the energy of humanity. In other words, this is one of the many methods that they used to drain your energy.

This energy is then used by the Controllers to charge their corporations (“corpses” or “dead entities”), banks, and other commerce systems, so that they can keep their game of conning humanity going. Without our energy to charge their corporations and commerce systems, their con game will not have enough power to stay on.

As human beings, we are being used as “batteries.” This is why before we go to court, we have to becharged first. At the court hearing, the judge will read the charges and then charge them off after a verdict or judgement is made.

If there is a fine or fee included in the judgement, the defendant will be ordered to pay the fine withcurrency. The covert meaning of the word currency has to do with the “flow of energy.” This is why the stored energy in a battery is called “electric current” or the “currency of electricity.”

To sum it all up, currency is what the Controllers of the New World Order (NWO) like to use to secretly steal your time and energy. There are many methods that they like to use to steal your energy using currency. Two of their favorite methods involve the legal system and inflation (a hidden tax on the public).
from: http://www.wakingtimes.com/2015/05/07/the-relationship-between-energy-and-currency/

know that who you are is exactly enough

When someone rejects you it doesn't mean you need to reject yourself. Just because some people choose to disregard your worth and treat you without kindness doesn't mean everyone will, and it certainly doesn't mean you have to imitate their behavior. The truth is that the way others treat us isn't about us—it’s about them and their own expectations, struggles, insecurities, and limitations. You don’t have to allow their judgments or criticisms to become your truth.
You will never be able to control what other people say or how they perceive things or how they act, but you can always choose how you treat yourself. You can choose who you spend your time with, and who you let go of. And no matter what your circumstances, you can always choose to believe in yourself and your worth. At the end of the day, trying to please everyone is exhausting and impossible. No matter how you change or who you become, there will always be someone who doesn't approve. So instead of wasting your energy in a futile attempt to become someone that appears perfect, give yourself permission to be a constant work in progress.
Know that who you are is exactly enough.
Kindred souls will cross your path, learn how to recognize and appreciate them. These are the people who will love and accept you wholeheartedly and without judgement. These are the people who matter. Let go of the rest.

That moment is now.

There is an intelligent healing process inside of you that knows how to absorb pain and transform it into wisdom. But to heal, you have to give yourself to the pain. You cannot avoid facing yourself your whole life. If you avoid your truthful emotions and pain you will implode and contract into a diminished and feeble state. Growth and empowerment requires reflection and facing the frightening, ugly, hard and unbearable reality. People are often clever masters at fooling themselves and not seeing the obvious right in front of them. One of the fastest ways to move through your pain is to get a grip on reality. Real transformation requires real honesty. If you want to move forward — get real with yourself!
Crisis is what suppressed pain looks like; it always comes to the surface. It shakes you into reflection and healing. When you are avoiding your pain you are really only avoiding your growth. Get up in your pain's face eyeball to eyeball and say, "I'm not afraid of you!" The biggest liar you will ever meet is yourself. It is amazing the lies we tell ourselves because of fear. Stop your lying-mind dead in its tracks; no more running in frantic circles of nonsensical denial. No more blaming. No more neglecting. No more dodging and running. The only end to your pain is through fully consuming it and digesting it, otherwise it will consume you. When you face your fears in the light of openness and honesty they will vanish. We carry many of these dark fears inside of us; frightening forms of mental obstacles that cast shadows on every beautiful possibility.
It is sad the way fearful people put all of their fears and insecurities onto others; the way they strangle their dreams — often in the name of love. Some people run from pain their whole lives, and what pain they do not digest they inflict upon others. You can't run from your pain forever. Avoiding pain causes endless suffering for you and others. Avoiding pain is really selfishness. When you face your pain you will discover you were always stronger than your pain. Your pain was always a fraud; appearing inescapable, unsurmountable and even necessary and a friend. The time has come to say goodbye to the afflictions you have been carrying, nurturing, protecting and empowering. When you truly face your pain you will only see yourself. Your fear was always you. Fear is a prison where you are the jailer. Free yourself! Anything you want is just beyond your fear. Your healing hour has arrived the moment you decide to live fully and powerfully. That moment is now.

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you cannot awaken those who pretend to sleep

It is important to understand that every person is at the level they are supposed to be. There is no good level or bad level, inferior level or superior level, just different frequencies. The chart below is only a guideline. What ever level others are at is not for you to judge. You would be better off using your energy to gain a full understanding of your own journey. I mean yeah, good for you if you can recognize how others are vibrating, maybe you can do or say something to help them if they are stuck a cycle of abuse, if not that's okay too. Just do your best to lead by example. I think that participating in challenging activities that you enjoy (like sports) is a good way expose yourself to lower frequencies. Having a safe non-judgmental place to practice and master the lower frequencies will prepare you to maintain a higher state.

What Sexy, Consciously Awake Women NEED & Don't WANT from Men

by Kelly Marceau

I’d like to allow my vulnerability to shine through in this piece.

It’s rare that I let down my guard, and come from the heart or speak from the feminine, especially publicly. My masculine has been ruling for so long, I didn’t even realize how hardened I have become, until about a month ago when someone came into my life for a brief moment, blasted some serious perspective, and awoke the sleeping feminine in me.

I’m here, today, ready to show how strong VULNERABILITY truly is.

It’s my coming out party BITCHES.

What, what? REPRESENT.

The word Consciously Awake might trip some of you up. What the heck does that mean and why the hell is it so important? Let me put it to you bluntly, when you are not dealing with a Consciously Awake woman you are dealing with crazy bitches, women with emotional problems and severe insecurity issues. Isn’t that all women? You might be thinking.

NO.

If you love drama and women who leak massive amounts of insecurity at you then you might have no business reading this, but if you want to actually be with a woman that you can grow a relationship with, you might want to settle into your seat for the next ten minutes, cause I’m about to lay down some meaningful shit.

If you’re smart you’ll consider what I am conveying and digest then reflect.

If you’re dumb you’ll go back to the same old bullshit that doesn’t work.

The choice is yours.

Before I fall too deep down the rabbit hole, let me express that EVERYONE has issues, but what sets Consciously Awake women apart from every other type of woman on this planet is something called SELF AWARENESS. Yes, Consciously Awake means Self Aware. It is the complete antithesis of SELF CONSCIOUS.

All women start out a little off. Whether it is childhood trauma, sexual abuse, mommy and daddy didn’t teach you much about self respect or worth, bad choices in men, insecurities, doubt, self deprecation—all women have to navigate these waters until they personally decide how they want to view themselves.

I see a lot of self hate in this world, and I, for one, have never struggled with self hate. Self hate is just plain weird and a waste of time in my opinion. I get there will always be someone better, faster, stronger, prettier than me, but there is no one exactly like me. Just like there is no one like you and that alone is worthy of self love and celebration.

When I was twenty-three I discovered I had some issues I needed to examine and work out. I had no idea that my past was playing itself out in my present or why I chose the guys I did. The only thing I had gotten right and didn’t fuck around with when it came to my worth was my ability to not compromise what I wanted out of life. I had a fine relationship with my outer life, but my romantic life kept tripping me up. I chose men that were ambitious and driven, but complete pricks. I liked men that were wicked smart and some of those fools were too wicked for their own good.

Then I met Adam. Adam and I just clicked. There wasn’t a single thing that I couldn’t talk to Adam about, which was such a relief. Adam was a Consciously Awake man, the first I had ever encountered in my life, and his self awareness opened my own world to an expansion of SELF I had been craving for a long time. At twenty three, I got very real with myself. My desire to AWAKEN was bigger than my desire to stay unconscious and I decided to confront my demons and do the work to become a more Consciously Awake human being.

Choosing Conscious Awareness was fuuucking brutal.

Real Self Examination requires COURAGE and DISCIPLINE.

You don’t know what courage looks like until you are sinking in piles of your own shit and you have to figure a way out before it suffocates you.

Let’s make no mistake—Consciously Awake Women don’t just exist—we have evolved through enormous effort and courage to confront the tumultuous waters of our own emotional landscape and social conditioning. Women like us are not entitled or self righteous, we are confident and love ourselves. Don’t mistake self-love and self-care for selfish. Women like us are not selfish, we just have boundaries, and we trust our intuition.

THE SOLUTION TO MODERN DAY DYSFUNCTION

Consciously Awake Women are not your average woman. We will not allow fear to prohibit us from looking into the fires of our own souls and own our emotional triggers, past wounds, flaws, mistakes, or pain. We aren’t afraid of therapy or coaching. We have consciously chosen to grow and evolve our beings and take pride in our personal development.

We care about our health, attitude, style, and connections. You can talk to women like us, even if you piss us off and a situation gets heated we are reasonable. We can admit when we are wrong. We will come around and we are always willing to talk things out once the dust has settled, unless we have decided you’re not worth our time or energy.

Consciously Awake Women are not flawless, stuff does come up, and we slip up from time to time, but what sets us apart is deep down we are psychologically healthy and sane, even if we like to get crazy at a good party, enjoy a fabulous cocktail or the occasional puff. Awake doesn’t mean boring, it doesn’t mean goodie goodie, it means that we deal with our issues and our problems are workable.

Consciously Awake Women are relationship material and the kind of women MEN want.

Listen MEN, WE NEED YOU.

All this – WE DON’T NEED YOU – crap is a big fat fucking lie.

The problem is a lot of you are lame, unreliable, emotional stunted, and impossible to date.

There is a reason a lot women have every right to think the vast majority of men are cavemen, stupid, and a headache.

Ever since the Women’s Lib movement women have been trying so hard to compete with men for the respect and equality we deserve that women have only begun to fully understand how the over-arching male ego of our greater reality and history has fractured our femininity. Women’s Lib made women more masculine, not feminine. If women wanted to play with the BIG BOYS we had to play a man’s game. We had to armor up. Women turned to masculinity for strength to compete in a man’s world, making us hard, bitter, aggressive, angry bitches who have little to no faith in the emotional maturity or acknowledgement of men. It’s age long conundrum and situation that I personally feel is about to come to a very big HEAD.

Consciously Awake Women are tired of fighting and shrinking for the right to seen and honored for the magnitude of what and who we are. We want you to take your blinders off. We want you to actually treat women the way you would want men to treat your daughters.

I, for one, am tired to fighting and shrinking.

Today, I am taking off the armor and the boxing gloves.

I no longer need to self protect to be STRONG. I am STRONG.

I’m not afraid to feel. I am emotional. I can be hurt and it is okay.

Strong Consciously Awake Women seek emotionally mature MEN who value personal and emotional growth.

THE PROBLEM WOMEN FACE WITH SOME MEN

There is nothing unsexier to a woman who is capable of owning her own shit and having a healthy functional relationship than a guy who is still potty training emotionally, and yet these types are running rampant in our culture. I have to address these types of guys so that the ones who are like this can be called out and the women still toying with these dudes can see the signs and make better choices.

Let this be noted, emotionally messed up women fall into the same category as these emotional challenged men. They’re merely opposite ends of a spectrum, so keep that in mind if as you read and find yourself wanting to argue that women have issues too! Yes, a lot of women have issues just like men. When you see me writing about the dysfunction in men, it goes both ways.

There is a big difference between a MAN who can harness his boy spirit, and be playful, loving, funny, and obnoxious, and a man who has the emotional intelligence of a teenage boy.

3 SIGNS A MAN IS STILL POTTY TRAINING EMOTIONALLY

1). He’s never explored his emotional landscape or done inner personal work, meaning gone through extensive therapy or personal and emotional coaching.

2). He can’t own his shit, meaning his emotional issues, triggers, unresolved childhood stuff or dysfunctional family imprinting.

3) He’s insecure and projects his fear and emotional wounds onto you, but tries to spin it like you’re the one with issues.

Emotionally stunted MEN are an epidemic in our culture.

A lot of these emotionally stunted guys have awesome personalities, cause they’re cool in every other way than how they choose to deal with their emotions. ALL WOMEN get caught up with these types at one stage or another until they wise up. WHY? Cause we aren’t living in a culture where the emotional intelligence of men is predominately great and sometimes it takes awhile to see people for who they actually are.

A lot of women are so starved for connection that they make excuses and then get roped into year long love affairs when WARNING SIGNS have been flashing the entire time. It gets lonely out there for women when 9 out of 10 guys have fractured male egos. The choices for women are not exactly far reaching.

Listen up ladies, stop falling for a guy’s potential or what he could be. If he has major emotional issues (like the ones I highlighted), you will be baby siting, playing mommy, and living with a headache larger than life! Unless he is willing to work his shit out without you nagging him to man up, or he has his own personal desire to grow himself, you will suffer his shortcomings. I can guarantee that.

In my opinion, guys like these are an EPIC WASTE OF TIME and are best left to girls who just don’t get it.

Don’t get duped by looks, good sex, or whatever fun qualities these guys posses. You need to find a man who is constantly growing himself or else you will wind up in a one sided relationship, bitter, and unfulfilled. A lot of women want to be with the idea of someone, but unless you want your delusions to come crashing down and be in the worst emotional pain of your life, LISTEN TO ME. I have seen more than you can imagine and I have dedicated my psyche to awakening since I was twenty-four.

Consciously Awake Women might be attracted to these types for a couple days, even weeks if you rarely hang out, but the second she sees your bullshit she will lose interest. We’ve already been down that road and we aren’t looking for disappointment. We are looking for someone who stands out. Women like us are not afraid of a man who challenges us to grow our being. If you are not growing and rising up to the level you want you to living in your fears and I, for one, didn’t come here to live in fears.sry

It is a daily choice to confront what scares you. You can either choose to live in fear or you can choose to get the life you crave and need to fully experience what you are capable of.

Only fucked up women want to babysit or play mommy to men, the rest of us want the real deal and evolved men.

Good women need MEN that can self reflect, own their shit, and take responsibility for their emotional wounds or else women are stuck in a world full of emotional and mental midgets.

Women need MEN who have the courage to confront their demons.

We are not asking for perfection, but we have high standards. You can have issues but you better be dealing with them. We want to be with men who take your emotional maturity seriously.

If you have ever heard a women you cared for tell you that you need to:

1). Man Up

2). Become more Aware, Accountable, or Responsible

3). Go to Counseling

4). Own Your Shit

5). Stop Projecting, Controlling, and Criticizing

6). Hear not Listen

7). That you act like a Baby, a Queen or a Pussy, and have Severe Emotional Problems

YOU NEED TO CHECK YOURSELF BEFORE YOU RIIIGGEDY WRECK YOURSELF.

TIPS FOR MEN WHO HAVE ISSUES

We want men we can rely on and can compliment us. We don’t want to COMPETE with you. We want men who will take the time to get to know us, honor our brilliance, beauty, personalities, and capabilities without tearing us down or not showing up the way a lot of men do. Men who are hard on themselves or beat themselves up will be hard on you. And that shit ain’t kosher, you feel me?

All this self deprecation and abuse in our culture has to end. What good does beating yourself up do? If you want to be GREAT at something just do it, keep at it, and be patient with your process. If you suck or have a lot of growth ahead of you, just own it and move forward. Why would you be your own slave driver? Why would you want to cut someone that you care about down to size so you don’t have to own the fact that you are in dire need of emotional growth?

Beating yourself down, feeling bad, insecure, not good enough, or worthy is a waste. It solves nothing. The only thing it does is make you feel horrible, so if someone is doing this to you or to themselves—BAIL. Don’t wait around for that person to figure themselves out. If you choose to be friends with men who have emotional issues, let them do their thing, but don’t have delusions about their growth and what that could mean for you.

We need to look toward SOLUTIONS and get to where we want to be and stop wasting time. You don’t have a lot of time on this planet.

Women who have gone to great lengths to develop themselves emotionally and who have worked for what they have in life are not about to apologize, minimize their feelings or sell themselves short for these self entitled little brat boys who want to be the prize. Evolved women don’t chase men, girls do. Girls that don’t know their own worth will put guys on a pedastool and if you need that, man, you have a VERY LOW SELF ESTEEM.

You might as well tell everyone you need a fluffer in life in order to get an erection, cause that is the kind of guy you are emotionally. If a woman is bold enough to tell you she wants you or likes you, you need take the reigns dude, on EVERY LEVEL, or else she is not going to chase you, and she will start to think you are not man enough. No woman worth having is ever going to dote on you when you haven’t given her a reason to. She won’t cater to insecurities when you don’t posses the ability in your heart to feel her love. And she sure as shit won’t shovel reassurance at you when she can tell that reassuring you is going to be a full time job.

If you want a woman, go get her, cause Consciously Awake Women don’t wait around. We look for authentic qualities and men who represent. We want the real deal and only give three chances (if that). If you blow it, that’s it.

Some men like to call women nags, bitches, crazy, cunts, intense and whatever else you can muster, but let me be the first to tell you that our feelings have an origin. Women aren’t bitches or intense for no reason. We are not crazy either. We are tired of dealing with emotional and mental morons we can’t grow a relationship with.

It’s lonely and exhausting for powerful women who can’t find men that are our emotional equal. And you guys who just want what they want without working for it aren’t going to EVER get GREAT.

In all fairness, not all men have their head in the sand. Some men take a proactive stance about their inner personal work and self reflect, look at the common theme and failures in their relationships, and actively seek evolution without mommy dearest having to spank them into shape, but for those of you that are stubborn, caught up in image, have Peter Pan Syndrome, think your shit don’t stink, always blame the woman and never take ownership of the part you play in your twisted dynamics, I’m telling you now, that you can have the kind of woman you want if you choose to become the kind of man a woman like that could actually be with.

You will never get an amazing women if YOU’RE LAME. Period.

Getting what you want and need doesn’t have to be so difficult or challenging.

ALL OF US ARE LOOKING TO BE LOVED AND LOVED IN RETURN.

If you love someone or want someone and you think they’re out of your league or you look at them and see how far you have to grow and cower, that is ON YOU. Don’t ever try to be something you are not. We are all flawed and in need of growth. Honoring the truth and doing what it takes daily is all that anyone can ask. You have to be the one to decide how much you are willing to give and devote of your being to what your heart truly desires. Fear of pain, hurt, loss is not an excuse.

You are here to LIVE and LOVE not hide under the bed. Let someone stand by you, but take some fucking responsibility for yourself. You cannot ever ask something of someone you are not willing to do with yourself.

Right now, I’m pioneering a path to empower a new breed of women. Women who can stand in their power and be enough for themselves, so that they stop hurting themselves unintentionally. Men will always be a problem, they’re men, but I think that the heart of a woman’s issues is her own worth. If you stop looking outside of yourself and start looking at how you create your reality you have to ask yourself what you are and aren’t willing to put up with?

No man on this planet is worth half the heart ache you feel. The right ones take care of you and don’t fuck with you and you need to gravitate toward those kinds of men with all your heart. If you don’t know when to trust yourself or how to trust yourself and love yourself to choose better, ask yourself these 3 things:

1). Do I feel good about myself around this person?

2). Does this person serve my highest good?

3). Does this person treat me with respect and compassion?

If you answer NO to any of these questions: GET THE FUCK OUT!

There are way too many men in this world to SETTLE for bullshit. And if he’s hot, honey there will be another. There are always others.

Let’s be allies and let’s help each other out. Life is challenging enough.

Good Talk, YO!

from: http://yoganonymous.com/what-sexy-consciously-awake-women-need-dont-want-from-men